My parents always read my diary What should I do

My parents always read my diary. What should I do?

Simple
Just create your own secret code language just like I created when I was something like 12 yrs old.
I had created it because I didn’t want others to know about my private and personal life.
I had created more than 100 languages from which I selected the one which was best.
Lets see if you can crack this.
“ Tyizi behc tyi murlb oz git~ong neégytoir ivirybeh.
Wuzt uf tyi muwin ment zix .
Srowiz un muwin yevi diin onsriezong ivirybeh.
Tiinz eri iezolh luzong tyior vorgonoth tyizi behz.
Bérong wh syet moty uthirz, myin tyih sewi tu knum tyet tyih miri telkong moty zuwiuni myu mez vorgon ivin tyuégy yi mez zivintiin hiöz ulb tyih miri zyuskib”
Now I know that few people can actually crack this language but most of the parents can’t .
They will probably be irritated while deciphering the code.
And eventually they will stop.

So what I am suggesting you is that write things in your diary in a language which only you know so that your parents won’t understand what you probably wrote.
EDIT – Wow 5 upvotes!!!

It's indeed irritating .
especially when your parents aren't cool about you having random crushes or when you are expressive in your diary or journal , or something that they don't approve of.
(as if they were never young) *sigh*
well we have got to find a way out, isn't it?
If you use diary as a way to express something you can't say or something that is bothering you .
you can just write on paper and discard it immediately.
If it makes you feel better, then it doesn't matter even if you don't have the record of it later.
If you write positive things like inspiration or motivation in your diary as part of something to improve yourself, of course they won't be having any problem with it, so it shouldn't feel like intrusion of privacy .
You can find ways to hide your diary if you want to keep it hidden from your parents.
Maybe they will still find out it later but then make sure it will not contain anything that's objectionable from their point of view.
and yes.
It does feel as if we can't do anything by ourselves , small thing as writing a diary without surveillance.
But as you grow older I guess they understand somehow and leave the habit of keeping tabs on you.
So don't give up writing because you feel it's not worth it.
Keep patience and hopefully things will get better as you grow up.

It is true, they shouldn’t intrude your privacy, however they are your parents.
They are curious about you, and they care for you.
They read your diary because they want to know your issues, or your opinion on certain subjects.
You need to understand that.
However, they need to understand that you have your own privacy.
You should do some following tips.
However, keep in mind that your parents want you to be open as best as possible so, don’t keep everything too private.

You are right, it clearly is an intrusion of your privacy and under no circumstances should your parents be doing that.
I disagree with the statement that you should not have anything to hide from your parents and so should not care about them reading your diary.
Our right to private is one of the most basic rights we have.
The above argument is often used by totalitarian states, who happily invade everyone's privacy.
What to do about it: it all depends on the relationship you have.
If you respect and trust each other (even though them reading your diary would indicate otherwise), you can have an honest conversation about how that makes you feel.
If you don't have a great relationship, just start a secret diary that they won't be able to access (paper or electronic).

Reading someone else’s diary is an invasion on privacy.
The first time you caught your parents reading your diary, you should have stopped.
Forget paper, create a document diary on your computer.
Do not save the diary document to your computer.
Keep it on a USB.
Your parents would never find it if you labeled it something random like Algebra homework.
If you really like paper, get another diary.
Leave one out for your parents.
Make sure that diary is parent-friendly.
Keep the othe diary hidden.
In the hidden diary write your true feelings.

Many will disagree with me but you do not have a right to your privacy.
When it is your home, and you pay the bills, you can demand privacy.
My kids know I have full access to all phones, computers, mail, notes, movies, etc in MY home.
I say no to certain things and don't allow it in my house.
I have the right to verify those rules are being followed.
Are you going to tell your boss he can not access email you read at work? His computer, his building, his access.
Even if it is your private email address and server, if you access it at work, he gets to read it.
Rule for grown up life.
The one paying the bills has the authority.
Period.

:)
Have a heart to heart talk with them.
Explain what you feel when they do it.
But you should know why they do it.
They don’t do it to hurt you.
Parents are naturally very concerned about their kids, and very curious about what is happening in their lives (just to make sure there are no bad things influencing you).
Kids generally tend to hide stuff from parents, fearing judgement, opposition, and denial.
I suggest that you start sharing important things with them voluntarily although it may seem difficult for you at first.
Start sharing small stories, discuss your day, what you feel, what you are planning to do tomorrow…
Talk to them that the shouldn’t be quick to judge you if they want you to share feelings.

HIDE IT
Then again there’s the problem of where to hide it.
The most obvious place to hide something like a diary in your room is under your mattress.
Since under the mattress is the most obvious hiding spot that’s the first place to look.
If you find a spot to hide your diary where your parents can’t find it then make/keep a second diary (full of stuff you know they want to read/hear) that you let your parents read.
Keeping your TRUE diary hidden.

Your parents are invading your privacy.
However, this is partially your fault if you leave your diary where your parents can easily access it.
My first suggestion is to put the diary away somewhere secure so they can't find it.
Secondly, in this era of technology you can have your diary as a encrypted file on your phone, tablet, or laptop.
However, the best way to insure your privacy is intact is to not document your personal thoughts anywhere.
I personally have never understood the value of keeping a diary.
Since the best way to keep a secret is to not share it with anyone, it seems counterintuitive to write down your thoughts and feelings in a medium that can be easily assessed by anyone.

Stop keeping a diary or hide it better.
If your parents don’t respect you enough to let you have a shred of privacy, there’s not much you can do to rectify the situation.
This isn’t abuse persay so there’s no help to be had from social services.
You can try telling them how you feel but I doubt it will help.

When someone cares a lot about privacy, it is almost always because they want to hide something perverted/lusty.
Why would you need to hide your thoughts from your parents in the first place? If you are doing something that you cannot openly do, then be stop doing it, and chances are you wouldn’t worry about your privacy so much.
But if you are truly concerned about something like your parents not supportive of your thoughts —such as career plans — then you can write it in an encrypted (code words / obscure way) only you can understand.
Or may be write something false but spicy just to watch the reaction of your parents!

Talk to them.
Tell them what you’re feeling and how you feel violated when they snoop in your private diary.
No doubt they are worried that they’ll find secrets about sex and drugs and things like that.
Parents worry and care…that’s a good thing.
But if you have a healthy, communicative relationship with your parents, then they should not be reading your diary.

Write a page in your diary about how you feel when they invade your privacy.
Do a little research & reference articles written by psychologists!
Then write about things they do that helps you & makes you happy so they don’t worry about you.

My parents always read my diary. What should I do?

Simple
Just create your own secret code language just like I created when I was something like 12 yrs old.
I had created it because I didn’t want others to know about my private and personal life.
I had created more than 100 languages from which I selected the one which was best.
Lets see if you can crack this.
“ Tyizi behc tyi murlb oz git~ong neégytoir ivirybeh.
Wuzt uf tyi muwin ment zix .
Srowiz un muwin yevi diin onsriezong ivirybeh.
Tiinz eri iezolh luzong tyior vorgonoth tyizi behz.
Bérong wh syet moty uthirz, myin tyih sewi tu knum tyet tyih miri telkong moty zuwiuni myu mez vorgon ivin tyuégy yi mez zivintiin hiöz ulb tyih miri zyuskib”
Now I know that few people can actually crack this language but most of the parents can’t .
They will probably be irritated while deciphering the code.
And eventually they will stop.

So what I am suggesting you is that write things in your diary in a language which only you know so that your parents won’t understand what you probably wrote.
EDIT – Wow 5 upvotes!!!

It's indeed irritating .
especially when your parents aren't cool about you having random crushes or when you are expressive in your diary or journal , or something that they don't approve of.
(as if they were never young) *sigh*
well we have got to find a way out, isn't it?
If you use diary as a way to express something you can't say or something that is bothering you .
you can just write on paper and discard it immediately.
If it makes you feel better, then it doesn't matter even if you don't have the record of it later.
If you write positive things like inspiration or motivation in your diary as part of something to improve yourself, of course they won't be having any problem with it, so it shouldn't feel like intrusion of privacy .
You can find ways to hide your diary if you want to keep it hidden from your parents.
Maybe they will still find out it later but then make sure it will not contain anything that's objectionable from their point of view.
and yes.
It does feel as if we can't do anything by ourselves , small thing as writing a diary without surveillance.
But as you grow older I guess they understand somehow and leave the habit of keeping tabs on you.
So don't give up writing because you feel it's not worth it.
Keep patience and hopefully things will get better as you grow up.

It is true, they shouldn’t intrude your privacy, however they are your parents.
They are curious about you, and they care for you.
They read your diary because they want to know your issues, or your opinion on certain subjects.
You need to understand that.
However, they need to understand that you have your own privacy.
You should do some following tips.
However, keep in mind that your parents want you to be open as best as possible so, don’t keep everything too private.

You are right, it clearly is an intrusion of your privacy and under no circumstances should your parents be doing that.
I disagree with the statement that you should not have anything to hide from your parents and so should not care about them reading your diary.
Our right to private is one of the most basic rights we have.
The above argument is often used by totalitarian states, who happily invade everyone's privacy.
What to do about it: it all depends on the relationship you have.
If you respect and trust each other (even though them reading your diary would indicate otherwise), you can have an honest conversation about how that makes you feel.
If you don't have a great relationship, just start a secret diary that they won't be able to access (paper or electronic).

Reading someone else’s diary is an invasion on privacy.
The first time you caught your parents reading your diary, you should have stopped.
Forget paper, create a document diary on your computer.
Do not save the diary document to your computer.
Keep it on a USB.
Your parents would never find it if you labeled it something random like Algebra homework.
If you really like paper, get another diary.
Leave one out for your parents.
Make sure that diary is parent-friendly.
Keep the othe diary hidden.
In the hidden diary write your true feelings.

Many will disagree with me but you do not have a right to your privacy.
When it is your home, and you pay the bills, you can demand privacy.
My kids know I have full access to all phones, computers, mail, notes, movies, etc in MY home.
I say no to certain things and don't allow it in my house.
I have the right to verify those rules are being followed.
Are you going to tell your boss he can not access email you read at work? His computer, his building, his access.
Even if it is your private email address and server, if you access it at work, he gets to read it.
Rule for grown up life.
The one paying the bills has the authority.
Period.

:)
Have a heart to heart talk with them.
Explain what you feel when they do it.
But you should know why they do it.
They don’t do it to hurt you.
Parents are naturally very concerned about their kids, and very curious about what is happening in their lives (just to make sure there are no bad things influencing you).
Kids generally tend to hide stuff from parents, fearing judgement, opposition, and denial.
I suggest that you start sharing important things with them voluntarily although it may seem difficult for you at first.
Start sharing small stories, discuss your day, what you feel, what you are planning to do tomorrow…
Talk to them that the shouldn’t be quick to judge you if they want you to share feelings.

HIDE IT
Then again there’s the problem of where to hide it.
The most obvious place to hide something like a diary in your room is under your mattress.
Since under the mattress is the most obvious hiding spot that’s the first place to look.
If you find a spot to hide your diary where your parents can’t find it then make/keep a second diary (full of stuff you know they want to read/hear) that you let your parents read.
Keeping your TRUE diary hidden.

Your parents are invading your privacy.
However, this is partially your fault if you leave your diary where your parents can easily access it.
My first suggestion is to put the diary away somewhere secure so they can't find it.
Secondly, in this era of technology you can have your diary as a encrypted file on your phone, tablet, or laptop.
However, the best way to insure your privacy is intact is to not document your personal thoughts anywhere.
I personally have never understood the value of keeping a diary.
Since the best way to keep a secret is to not share it with anyone, it seems counterintuitive to write down your thoughts and feelings in a medium that can be easily assessed by anyone.

Stop keeping a diary or hide it better.
If your parents don’t respect you enough to let you have a shred of privacy, there’s not much you can do to rectify the situation.
This isn’t abuse persay so there’s no help to be had from social services.
You can try telling them how you feel but I doubt it will help.

When someone cares a lot about privacy, it is almost always because they want to hide something perverted/lusty.
Why would you need to hide your thoughts from your parents in the first place? If you are doing something that you cannot openly do, then be stop doing it, and chances are you wouldn’t worry about your privacy so much.
But if you are truly concerned about something like your parents not supportive of your thoughts —such as career plans — then you can write it in an encrypted (code words / obscure way) only you can understand.
Or may be write something false but spicy just to watch the reaction of your parents!

Talk to them.
Tell them what you’re feeling and how you feel violated when they snoop in your private diary.
No doubt they are worried that they’ll find secrets about sex and drugs and things like that.
Parents worry and care…that’s a good thing.
But if you have a healthy, communicative relationship with your parents, then they should not be reading your diary.

Write a page in your diary about how you feel when they invade your privacy.
Do a little research & reference articles written by psychologists!
Then write about things they do that helps you & makes you happy so they don’t worry about you.

Updated: 14.07.2019 — 1:37 pm

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