How can I control my subconscious mind?
Thanks for A2A, Ananyaja.
You have asked me two more questions in a span of few hours.
One pertains to controlling anger and other to controlling ego.
Answers to all three questions are likely to overlap each other.
So, i am taking liberty of answering them all here.
We begin with controlling subconscious.
Most people do not have any clue about what is going on in subconscious, leave apart controlling it.
It is obvious that to control subconscious, you should have access to it.
Otherwise, whatever action we take shall be limited to conscious mind only.
Our conscious mind is full of scattered uncontrolled thoughts.
They just occur, randomly.
I would like to quote Eckhart Tolle from his book 'A new earth' below.
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The greater part of most people's thinking is involuntary, automatic, and repetitive.
It is no more than a kind of mental static and fulfills no real purpose.
Strictly speaking, you don't think: Thinking happens to you.
The statement " I think" implies volition.
It implies that you have a say in the matter, that there is choice involved on your part.
For most people, this is not yet the case.
"I think" is just as false a statement as " I digest" or " I circulate my blood.
" Digestion happens, circulation happens, thinking happens.
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Such conscious mind is gross.
It cannot break the barrier between conscious and subconscious.
It has to become sharp and subtle for it.
Meditation is the key for it.
Anapaan, which is taught for first three days of Vipassana course, does this job wonderfully.
It teaches focusing attention on breath, in it's natural state, without any attempt to change it.
One has to be aware of every inhalation and every exhalation.
It is not as easy as it sounds, particularly for beginners.
As the focus remains true for longer period, qualitative changes happen and it starts experiencing subconscious mind.
Once you reach this stage, subconscious can be controlled and altered by practicing Vipassana.
So far, we covered controlling subconscious.
Controlling anger also falls in the realm of subconscious.
Most of the other solutions that people may offer relate to conscious mind while anger has it's root in subconscious mind.
That is the reason people forget applying those tools while they are in a rage of anger.
It is only after anger subsides that they recollect that they were supposed to apply those tools or gimmicks like count one to hundred or drink a glass of water or take a small walk.
No such gimmick works.
When a person gets angry, he is unconscious in a way.
He isn't aware of what is he doing.
Anger can be eliminated only by stopping it at subconscious level where it starts.
Mindfulness meditation like Vipassana does this job perfectly.
For more details on it, you can check my answer to another question regarding body scan in mindfulness meditation.
The link is given below.
Controlling ego is most complex.
Vipassana does help here too.
But, i would suggest understanding ego at conscious level too, because it operates at both level.
More so because it can take deceiving forms and fools us easily.
Only thorough understanding of ego coupled with meditation practice enable us to recognize it's ugly face as it raises itself wearing a mask.
I would suggest reading two books by Eckhart Tolle for this subject, 'power of now' and 'A new earth'.
Hope this helps.
Notice this image carefully.
What you notice?
Waves emerging, isn't it?
Brain is just like this flowing river.
the waves are thoughts emerging in mind.
And by trying to keep control on it you are simply cutting off these waves at top.
After cutting off these, what will happen??.
they will emerge again, cut it again, again they'll come.
It's all vain!!
Now just think that why these waves are emerging??
It's because of the rocks on the seabed.
You know what these rocks are.
They are things on which you don't have control in your life.
Like, feeling of anger, laziness, bad habits etc.
So try to work on these limits of yours, then only you can control your mind.
There is a difference between mind and intelligence.
Mind always will do enjoyable things, it doesn't care about your good or bad.
But intelligence works on facts and knowledge, it will always think right for you.
Sometimes what happens is,, we know that the thing which we are doing is wrong, not good for us but still we are doing it.
Why? How to control ourself?
The simple way is by not allowing your mind to overtake your intelligence.
Always keep your intelligence stronger than mind.
If caught in a situation where you want to enjoy but you know thats not good.
For instance, if there is your favorite food in front of you and your stomach is full and you still want to eat it but from Inside you know it's harmful for you.
The voice which says you to have it is your mind and the voice which says it is harmful is of your intelligence.
in those situation just imagine what will happen after consuming it and what will happen if not consumed.
As soon as you realise the harmful effects your mind will be scared and your intelligence will win.
Suppose you are very angry one day and wish to party hard, enjoy to relax yourself amd also take revenge from the person who had made you angry, maybe beat him, or even kill him!! In this situation what your intelligence will suggest you is to have party ,,enjoy fullest but you'll not take revenge.
And your mind will say Ohh it doesn't matter, cm on take your revenge.
in this just think what will happen if I do so and if I don't do it.
There you'll understand how to keep control on mind.
It doesn't matter how hard you try to make your mind conscious, it will be even more unconscious!! Just try to work on your limits and don't let your mind win, use your intelligence.
be practical, take decisions by your knowledge and not wishes!!
Try to understand that your mind always run towards temporary pleasures.
And by following it you just make it more strong.
don't let your mind control you!!
Control your mind or it will control you!!
Avoid those things which gives you fun,,, for which in future you will crave.
In the nutshell don't make your mind more strong, work by your intelligence.
A very famous quote by Albert Einstein,
“The measure of intelligence is the ability to change”
Have a blessed day ahead!!
Thank you for reading.
Stay patient, trust your instincts, your mind is now learning what the mahout wants, like the elephant.
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Plain and simple…
We all have a subconscious image of ourselves.
And all of our subconscious beliefs and habits reflect that image back to us in our daily lives.
This is the foundational principle used in my subliminals:
Change your self-image – directly, at the subconscious level – and all your beliefs and habits will automatically change.
When you see yourself as a confident and successful person, you will act like a confident and successful person…
You will simply BE confident and successful because that’s how you see yourself.
And this is a useful way to explain how my subliminals work.
Calling it a self-image has some limitations.
After all, it’s not like a portrait hanging on the wall of your imagination.
It’s really more of an ongoing story.
It’s the story you have of yourself, and the world, and your place within the world.
It’s the story that ties together all of the events and experiences of your life in a way that makes sense and gives meaning to everything that you do.
And the meaning you attach to events can make the difference between motivation and defeat; Learning or losing; Growing stronger or getting weaker.
You see, too often we take a passive role in how our personal story gets written.
We simply take what we’re given in childhood and run with it.
And, if we were given a good story to start with, that’s great.
We’ll continue to live out that story and add to it as we go about our adult lives.
However, that wasn’t the case for me and, unfortunately, it isn’t the case for most people.
What usually happens, instead, is we’re given stories in which we are nothing more than supporting characters…
…In our *own* personal life stories.
Instead of playing the leading role, the hero who heads out to face life’s challenges, learn and grow, and help and inspire others along the way…
A lot of us end up defeated before we even head out on our own, and live out the rest of our lives playing the role of a background extra in the stories of the people around us.
Or worse, we end up as the helpless victims in the story of some villain.
So, this week, I’m going to talk about how you can rewrite your personal story so that you’re the hero.
Because when you take conscious control of your own story – past, present, and future – you free yourself from all the confusing or painful events in your past that rob your life of meaning and purpose.
Even the darkest tragedy can be rewritten into a tale of heroic accomplishment, transforming a past of pain and victimhood into a future where anything is still possible.
Because it’s not the things that happen to us that determine our self-image and, as a result, our destiny.
Rather, it’s the meaning we attach to those things.
It’s the stories we tell ourselves about *why* things happen.
And the better your story, the better your life will be…
Now, and also in the future.
Be The Hero Of Your Own Story
You recognize a hero’s story when you read one:
A normal person has their life thrown into chaos by some unexpected event.
They go through trials and tribulations as their understanding of the true nature of their reality is torn to pieces.
They face seemingly impossible challenges, but they keep going.
They learn and grow along the way… usually under the guidance of a mentor or some higher ideal… some guiding force that can lead them to a new understanding of their place in the world.
Until, finally, they reach that transformational moment when everything falls into place and they can return to the world to face off with their villain.
And, once victorious, take their rightful place in the world as they were truly meant to be.
So, are you the hero of your own story?
If not, it’s a fairly simple mindset shift…
Making yourself the hero of your own story means that you start looking at past events in your life with a renewed sense of meaning.
Instead of seeing the painful events and horrific failures of your past as proof that you are a failure or a victim, instead…
You begin to see them as trials and challenges of your own personal, heroic journey.
You begin to assume that everything, good and bad, in your past has been leading up to some major breakthrough experience that will reveal to you your true purpose in life.
And when you assume that everything is working towards some bigger purpose, it does.
Because when you assume that it’s true, your subconscious mind automatically starts finding all the reasons that it is true.
And it gets to work rewriting your personal story, your self-image, with this new sense of meaning.
You’ll start to see how all of your experiences were preparing you for the next step.
You’ll realize that all the bad things that didn’t kill you (you’re still alive, after all) are actually sources of strength and wisdom to help others avoid needless suffering.
You’ll see that all the skills you’ve acquired along the way have opened unexpected opportunities in your present and future.
And, you’ll find that everything is connected in ways you may never have expected… that life is much more deep and meaningful than you ever would have guessed.
Your past, present, and future will change for the better when you look at them in this new light.
Yes, the events of your past remain the same, but the story changes.
The story that weaves all those events together into a coherent narrative changes.
And so they take on an entirely new meaning, and you will take on an entire new attitude towards yourself and the world around you.
… I have to add that I’m not a psychologist and that I don’t necessarily distinguish between subconscious/unconscious in the linked answer.
A lot of my answer deals with completely unconscious brain functions … The subconscious is useful in related ways and plays a significant role on cognitive and emotional processing levels.
It is perhaps more in this context that we think about it rather than say in motor function, though my linked answer gives a lot of examples from the latter just because I think some of those examples are truly glorious phenomena.
It controls us.
The only way I've heard that is possible is just like wrote, through awareness.
I don't know if it's the pre-frontal cortex that is responsible for awareness.
I've heard also that it could be the topmost layer of the brain called the neocortex.
Anyway, I think the brain works as a system of checks and balances.
This is facilitated through awareness.
Behavior is dictated by your subconscious.
If you actively try to control yourself, you are using only one part of your brain to control another.
If instead, you are aware of the behavior, then many parts of your brain (including the subconscious) will be active in changing that behavior.
For example, if you are a very mean person but you don't notice this, then you will most likely not change.
On the other hand, if you are made aware of the harm you are causing yourself and others, a change will occur.
It could be a slow change.
It will be a stronger and possibly faster change if you feel the bad emotions associated with the behavior.
Emotions are very powerful.
Dan Siegal wrote a book called the "Whole Brain Child"
The reason most people fail to become masters of their Mind Power is because they don’t know how the Subconscious Mind thinks.
Since our Mind Power comes from our Subconscious, it’s essential to know the differences between it and the conscious mind.
I got into the subconscious mind a year ago.
I was fascinated by a book called Mind Power by John Kehoe.
Simply amazing read.
My curiosity was sparkled and I couldn't stop reading about our subconscious mind.
It just amazed me how powerful, yet unknown it is to humans nowadays.
Hopefully, I learned a few ways to reprogram your subconscious mind so you can successfully alter reality the way you want.
That is a half brilliant question … and I do not use that word “brilliant” … lightly!
First of all, since we all assume that the subconscious is NOT chaos, but rather is in an organized state of mind, that tells us that it is already controlled by some self-organizing set of principles.
(see link below that describes the system that “allegedly” does that.
Secondly, to improve upon the above question we might wish to ask “Can the subconscious nature of the human mind be reviewed and improved upon by the conscious intention and training of the human?
How “might” the very nature and process of human hypnosis already be one methodology?
What about re-engineering the epigenetic fields that inform the genetic coding to switch on and off? Might that not also be one methodology for future research?
Human handlers – which are “Belief Systems” that are literally in total control of one’s Values … one’s thoughts … one’s emotional proclivities … and one’s behavior – here are the real sources of control over the current state of humanity’s lack of transcendent intelligence.
Please watch and then will you kindly share with others.
Again, I and the world need help in restoring civility and peace in our world.
All comments welcome and send them to >>
Subconscious mind cannot be controlled but it can be reprogrammed.
Althought, reprogramming subconscious mind and relpacing old negative beliefs is quite difficult and takes time, but with little persistence you can reprograme your subconscious mind for your good.
Your old beliefs do not get replace in a day or a week, it will take some time.
Here are some ways to reprogram your subconscious mind.
Control implies command and containment and we don’t even know the boundaries of the subconscious mind, its nature or its substance.
The short answer stands to reason then, for the fact that you cannot directly control it.
As I write this, there are already 79 other answers, some of them rather like long answers to the question.
Many very scholarly and well articulated.
To sum them up, one might say there seems to be consensus that the subconscious, if not also the conscious mind, is subject to forces interior to and external from the individual of which an individual has little or no control (except in ways prescribed in many of these answers; the efficacy of which must be investigated).
It is safe to say that we need the notion of the ideal for indirectly dealing with the problem of controlling the quality and quantity of forces or influences on our (subconscious and conscious) states of mind and the (covert and overt) quality and quantity of actions that ensue from them.
We can see that some (conscious or subconscious habits or) actions tend toward our perfect ideal (model of perfection) and that of others, while other activities tend toward imperfection in themselves and in others.
We take for granted this force, pressure or influence on the mind, or sensation bearing on the mind.
This particular sensation is acquired or observed on the occasion that an ideal (model) of perfection, for example, excites a particular pleasure (e.
, admiration) and also where the sensation of imperfection emotes an absolute displeasure (e.
These emotions, which rest in the subconscious, are surfaced, or brought to conscious mind, which is, in the end, inclined or disinclined to modifications (of such acts) given its emotional pleasure or displeasure with them, as it were.
It’s a complex relationship, hence complexity.
Ideally, a conscious mind, the psyche, soul or the unextended force of conscious activity, your mind, just as mine, takes pleasure in and is obliged to being free of contradictions.
That reduces the complexity of relationships to those that are compossible; — where the existence of one individual may contradict the existence of another without being incongruous.
In this way, the evolution of man's conscious and temporal experience explains the origin of his or her natural obligation and accountability (aka: categorical imperative).
We derive from this the general (universal) rule or law of the human being's moral nature: that our actions ought to be directed toward the highest or ideal perfection of ourselves and others.
We call this the empirical fact of the matter.
If you can meet your obligation to this perfection, I guarantee you will be in command of your conscious mind and all the subconscious faculties that are yours to bring to bear.
Indirectly, “Yes” but directly, “No” as your subconscious mind actually controls you when you are not paying attention, however you can program it and are in control of the life “data” it receives.
The operating paradigms of the subconscious mind can be cultivated through positive affirmation, attention to managing one’s emotional reaction to negative events and generally being careful as to your spoken words as your own ears are the closest recipient of anything you say.
The subconscious mind is a very literal and simple thing.
Whatever it hears more of, (in your thoughts and perceptions as well as your words) it will internalize as accurate information as it is ineffective at discerning sarcasm or guile.
Learning to make an ally of your subconscious mind takes time, consistency and discipline, especially if it has a lot of negativity to unlearn.
Treat it like a garden, plant good plants in it, weed it diligently, fertilize it with things of a wholesome and uplifting nature and your subconscious mind will serve you better and better in the long run.
That which makes you happy and fulfilled will eventually respond and ameliorate your life.
Without discipline and awareness however, the subconscious mind can become corrupted and develop into something that works against you and your well being and keeping you trapped in a self-destructive cycle.
To be fair I do work on this in my own life but continue to struggle to maintain the proper attitude and willingness as I am just as human as anyone else, being horrified and discouraged at many things about today’s world and society, struggling to make a basic living, but trying always to repent, reconcile and return to that optimism and radiant love that is the true “over unity engine” of life.