Does true love exist

Does true love exist?


Strictly NO
Nowadays, there is nothing called true love.
What all today exists is only conditional love.
That love is for a particular reason, a particular trait of a person and a particular greed which needs to be fulfilled by human beings.

That isn’t called love; in fact it’s called “Lust”.

Many of you mistake lust as a crave for sex or a sexual satisfaction but that’s not the truth.
Lust are of many kinds.

Many people love each other because they need sex whereas there are some people who love each other for the lust of their physical traits, some people love each other for the lust of their money and some love each other only to showoff because they think that it makes them look pretty cool in the modern world.
So this proves there is nothing called true love.

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Boys look for pretty girls to make them their love, baby, jaanu, bachha and all.
Girls look for handsome and rich boys to make them their life partner, babu, sona, meri jaan, meri duniya(my world).

I don’t know how many duniya(worlds) they want to have coz such type of girls have had near about 5–6 such “my world” in the past few months and they can soon create their own solar system by combining their “my worlds”.
So where is the true love?
If true love would have existed, then there wouldn’t have been divorces between husband and wives.

Still not convinced? Read further.

Have you ever asked yourself why you love your parents? Isn’t it because they have done so much for you and still doing it without even demanding from you anything.
What if they start demanding something from you everytime they do something for you?
Most of your so called true love for your parents will instantly vanish.
Many of you will then start arguing with them over the matter.
I know a majority of people will not accept this but it’s the harsh truth.
Then where is the true love guys?
If true love would have existed and everybody would have truly loved their parents, then there wouldn’t have been old age homes.

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So, there is no such thing called true love.
But, there is something called pure love.
Love which is not based on caste, color, looks, wealth or fame or any kind of give and take is pure love.

Pure love is something which can not be defined in words; it is a feeling which almost all of us had gone through at least once in their lifetime but most of us have failed to recognize it.

According to me, dads silently tucking you your blankets while you are asleep and moms quietly bringing you fruits/snacks when they see you’ve been studying for a long time will always be the purest form of love in the entire universe.

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- Adarsh Gupta
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Te Amo ♥



Dear friend,
Lovers know each other.
Lover of God knows God.

Lovers don’t talk about that which is very intimate in public.
They do not like to discuss all the core secrets with others.
They do not like to tell of these things to anybody.
These things have a certain sacredness.
These things must remain untouched.
They cannot be shared with the world.
Oh, they are so sacred that they cannot be shared even with oneself.

They are so sacred that you do not want to tell of them even to your own mind.
If you put something in words and speak it out, then you are speaking out an entire word.
Not making it public.
You don’t let your intimacy become a public thing.
Forget about words, if you even think about something, then you have at least let your mind know about that thing.

Your relationship with God is so intimate that you cannot let others and you cannot let even yourself know about it, which means that not only can you not use words, you can also not use thoughts, which means you cannot think about your relationship with God.
Which means you will know everything, but not ‘think’ about anything, and that is the mark of a Real relationship.
To know so closely that there is no need to think.
You know so closely that thoughts become vulgar.

Remember that thought is always a problem-solving mechanism.
Thought arises only when there is a challenge, a problem, a doubt, a dispute.
If everything is well-settled, then there is no need to think.
In intimate love, everything is surely well-settled.
So, where is the need for thought? You will know all the intimate details about God, but you will say nothing.
Not only will you not say anything to others, you will also not say anything to yourself.
You won’t even think.
Thinking is an insult, an abomination.

In matters of the Real, you just be.
You do not think.
If you have to think about your Beloved, if you miss your Beloved, it is a sure sign of absence of Love.

Where there is something Real, it is always complete.
The Real is complete by definition.
What is complete by definition does not seek completion through after-thought.
If your meeting has been complete, you will not be left groping the memories.

Whatsoever is left unfulfilled, seeks fulfilment through thought.
That which is Total and Complete, just fades away, dissolves.
Hence, the Real Lover will not make himself felt through thought.
He would not want to become an object in your mind.
He will not say, “Remember me at all times in the day”.

The sign of True Love is that you can forget.

You can totally forget.

You are so assured that there is no need to think or remember.

Thought is not needed.
Verbalization is not needed.
You are knowing without thinking – and that is Real knowing, when you know without thinking, when you know without effort, without knowledge, without memories.

~ Acharya Prashant (आचार्य प्रशान्त)
You cannot get It through your effort.

But you will not get It without effort either.

Don’t resist,
empty yourself, and
leave the rest to Grace.

~ Acharya Ji
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Like no other.

I was a teenager- about 14–15 years old and had heard a lot about love.

I was, as you say- was in love with the notion of love.

That was when I first came to hear of their love story…
“I am getting married in a week,” Nikhil said avoiding her eyes.

-“Is there no other option?” Shweta said with barely constrained tears.

“No, I can’t go against my parents' wishes.
I have tried everything to make them understand, but the difference in our caste is the main problem.

-“Nikhil, we can elope.
I am ready.

“My mother will commit suicide if I ever take such a step.

-“Let us then wait for sometime, maybe, they will relent.

“It’s no good arguing Shweta.

-“But…”
“Shweta, it’s over.

“We are getting married in a week,” Nikhil said, his eyes full of love.

-“Was there no other option?” Shweta, though happy, was in a little doubt.

“No, it was the only thing that my parents understood.
Now, under the circumstances, they had to agree.

-“Nikhil, we could have done something else.

“It was the only way.

-“Yes, but if we had taken a different path.

“It’s no good arguing Shweta.

-“But…”
“Shweta, it’s over.

Three years had elapsed between both the conversations.

And those years were a hell for Aastha.

Yes, she was Nikhil’s wife.

Was.

She was as yet, unaware of the reasons her marriage had failed.

In these three years, she had given all to her arranged marriage with Nikhil- a marriage that their parents’ had fixed for them.

She had loved Nikhil- all she could, by her words, her actions, her body, her heart, and soul.

She had been the best wife, anyone could ever want.

But, did Nikhil want her?
No.

She never knew what was his problem.

Why was he so mean to her? Why did he never talked to her, apart from any important things?
Yes, they did have a physical relationship- but it always seemed constrained to her, like he was obliging her, while himself not really interested.

And it got worse.

His behaviour, from indifference, had turned to rude- to the point that he had started hitting her.

Her in-laws supported her, but they could never say more than a few words to their son, who was hostile to them too.

Even her parents had come over to talk to him- to no avail.

Nothing she could do pleased Nikhil.

It seemed that he was forced to marry her.

She was exhausted mentally, having no strength to fight for her right, for her deserved love.

At last, when she couldn’t take it anymore- she left his house and filed for divorce.

And it was as if Nikhil had been waiting for it- he readily agreed.

All the formalities of the mutual divorce were completed.

She felt free but cheated- as if something defiled her like she was punished for no fault of her own.

Aastha, a lively girl of 26, became a hollow shell of her former self.

What was her fault? That she had married according to her parents’ wishes, that she had loved her husband from day one and given all to keep the sanctity of marriage intact?
Almost after 6 months of her divorce, she heard the news of Nikhil re-marrying.

And that was when she knew.

She had paid the price of parents’ dominance, the price of love- but of her husbands’.

Nikhil married Aastha as per his parents’ wishes, bowing down to their blackmail.

Enraged to be coerced into marriage, Nikhil thought of something to payback.

He wanted to teach his parents’ a lesson, forgetting that he was playing with an innocent girl’s life.

As he couldn’t say a word to his parents’, he took a different track and started torturing Aastha.

He knew, one day or the other, she will retaliate and then he could easily escalate the matter to the point of divorce.

And once he got divorced, he would be damaged goods’ in the eyes of the society- with no single girl willing to marry him, and then his parents would have no problem in him marrying a single girl from another caste.

Yes, that was his grand plan.

He was ready to go any lengths to get the love of his life.

And Shweta was in it too.
She had agreed not to get married to anyone else in the meantime.

They succeeded in their plan.

Their love had prevailed.

They won.

It was all in the name of love.

True love…
-Khushbu.


Yess Yess and Yesss.

Let me tell you an incident that occurred recently.

It was Sunday and my brother woke up at 6 am.
(it is impossible to wake him up at 6 am during school days).

He was all active and ready to disturb everyone in the house.
So the first thing he did was, he went to my mom and started waking her up.

Though my mom was awake, she pretend to not wake up.
After repeated attempts of waking her up, he became a little tensed.

Now my mom was trying to prank him.
She didn't move a bit.
She even stopped breathing for a while to fool him.

My brother was now scared.
He observed her very carefully.
He slowly opened eyes, hit her on the face, poured a little water on her, but she did not wake up.

My brother started crying loudly, went to my father and told him that mom is not waking up.
He then pulled my mom's hair very hard.

Mom realised that it was going out of hand and woke up.
Seeing my mom awake, my brother took a breath of relief, hugged her hard and kissed a ton of times.
He also promised her that he will never trouble her.
He sat next to her for an hour and didn't leave her for a second.

Though what mom did was not good, but this proved my brother's love for her.
This proved that though he doesn't leave a single opportunity to trouble her, he cannot imagine a single second without her.
This innocent and pure love of a son for his mother is the greatest example of existence of
True Love.

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True love exists.
True love is unconditional.
Someone who feels true love for another will continue to love them regardless of what they do.

People are, of course, imperfect, so they make mistakes, and hurt others' feelings.
Some people feel betrayed.
However, in the case of true love, a person who feels sadness, anger, or betrayal will try to work through the circumstance with the other person.

One person can show true love while the other does not.
True love does not have to be reciprocal.
Mother Theresa showed true love for those she served throughout her life.
They did not always show it back.

If you're religious, the standard of true love is the example of the love God gives to us.
This unconditional love is called "charity" in the scriptures.
Only in later years has the word come to mean free food for the indigent.
The challenge that I and many struggle with is how to adapt this example of scriptural love to the love we show in our every day relationships.

One of the best resources I've read about finding and giving unconditional love comes from Greg Baer in his book Real Love: The Truth About Finding Unconditional Love & Fulfilling Relationships.
One of the most impactful ideas from his book for me was this– As long as we are giving or trying to get conditional or imitation love, we can't see real love, even when others show it to us.
This is because we're "purchasing" what we want from others, in that we think we're only getting what we want because we manipulated them into it.
So even if someone else truly loves us and serves us, we are blind to it.

It's amazing to me how we often we think we're giving love to others in our relationships, but in fact, we are only giving conditional or imitation love.
In other words, "I'll love you if you do this for me or act this way for me", rather than "I'll love you and care for you regardless of what you do.
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I think grandparents have the easiest time understanding this.
I could never turn away from my grandson, regardless of what he does.
He may make a choice that makes me sad, but I'll never stop loving him.
Also, the love that most mothers have for their children is unconditional.

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Enjoying the park
Another excellent example I've found of showing unconditional love comes from Arbinger Institute.
In their book, The Anatomy of Peace, you learn how it's possible to see someone as a human, not an object, even if they have hurt you or have treated you poorly.

A core idea from the Anatomy of Peace is that we deceive ourselves to justify our actions that defy our beliefs of what we should do.
For example, you get into an elevator.
Do you hold the door for someone you see rushing across the room, or because you're in a hurry do you allow the door to close? If you allow it to close, why? Are you telling yourself that it's the man's fault he didn't get here earlier? This is just an excuse we tell ourselves to justify our unkind action of not holding the elevator door open for him.

I believe nearly all of us lie to ourselves to justify actions incongruent with our beliefs, and when we do so we become blind to the reality of the circumstance.
Usually, we are the cause of conflict, but we don't want to believe it.
This habit ultimately causes us to be blind to those who may truly love us.
We create all kinds of stories that cast us as the victimized or the deserving one, and the other as the one at fault.

Showing unconditional love is not easy.
It takes a lot of work.
But you can learn to love unconditionally.
Once you achieve this, you will understand true love and you will be able to recognize it in your life.
You will be able to find people who will love you this way, and you will be able to teach others how to show true love by showing it to them.

Understanding and having true love in your life is the most valuable thing in the world.

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I Wrotte a similar answer:
Yes it can, because Love is Not a feeling.
Why? because feelings are polar, they polarize into good and bad feelings and feelings change all time according to extern situations.
Feelings are dependent on the enviroment, on our entourage, on the extern.
Hence we are totally affectable, susceptible, manipulable by extern situations.
Extern situations determine that I start feeling bad when I don’t understand or accept something or that I feel happy or cheerful when something is according to my beliefs.

What you feel when you are in love are feelings.
That is not Love, those are feelings.
When you are infatuated the body releases a hormone named phenylethylamine.
That hormone is responsible for all the excitment and the rush you feel.
The function of this hormone is to recognize a genetic compatibility in the person you fall in love.
This hormone blocks personality, that is the reason why when you fall in love you see the other person as perfect.
it can be your opposite, but you see him or her perfect.
The thing with this hormone is that it only last as much as 3 years.
That is why many couples say after this time that “love is over”.
Love cannot be over.
What happened is that feelings changed.
When the person you “love” stops behaving the way you want then you stop “loving” them.
All is good as long as the person you “love” behaves the way you want.
And not just with your couple, with your children, situations and the world.
Why? Because feelings are part of your system of beliefs.
Of your Ego.

Love is something very different.
Love is not a feeling because love doesn’t changes, and Love doesn’t stops because love is not a feeling, If you could feel love then it wouldn’t be love.
Remember what Jesus said? Love your enemies? You cannot do that from feelings.

Love is deep and a very deep understanding.
Love is the ability you have to understand, comprehend, respect and accept the world, situations and people without wanting to change them.
To be able to do this, you have to remove your beliefs about how people or the world should be and to do so, you have to make an inner work of changing yourself.
Love is what lets you understand that there is no good and bad, that the world is perfect, that people do the best they can from their systems of beliefs.
Love is a neutral point.
Love is what sets you free from all suffering! Feelings are unable of doing this.


GOD BLESS & may all your dreams come true :)


No :)
I was in a relationship of 3 years.
We were in a long distance relationship.
We met on Twitter.
Seems filmy? Yeah actually our relationship was fully filmy 😛
Like every couple we were madly in love with each other in starting.
But as our relationship passed we started fighting over silly topics.
I agree mistake was mine.
I never understood him but same goes to him.
Our main problem was understanding.
We had lots of misunderstanding.

We had lots of fights and breakup but in the end we always ended up being together as we loved each other madly.
I agree in my relationship misunderstanding played an important role.
But yes 70%mistakes was mine but I won't deny the fact that 30% mistakes was his too.
But again we always ended up been together.

I never realised that those fights were doing something which I never understood and he was thinking about all those incidents.
I forgot all the things and fights we had in our past bt he didn't all those bad memories were doing its work in his mind internally.

No doubt he loved me like hell.
No one can even thought about giving the same love what he gave to me.
He was always there in my bad times.
He always supported me whenever everyone was against me.
He was a real gem.

Like other couples we also made couple of promises to been together forever no matter what.
Will never leave each other and what not.
But we forgot that promises are meant to be broken.
So everything was working fine till 5th March.
On 6th February on my bday he gave me lots of surprises it was my best birthday.
That day was the best day of my life.
But life took a U turn and suddenly on 6th March he came to meet me as I was at his place for some days.
On 5tg March everything was alright we were together and had our best day bit suddenly next day he came and he broke up with me for my nature and attitude.

From that day till today there is not a single day when I didn't begged him for coming back in my life as he is my life my oxygen my world.
But nothing changed.

A person who always scolded me to have my food, who can't see tears in my eyes who can do anything for me who fought with the world for me.
Today he didn't cared whether I am having my food or not.
He don't care about my health, my sleep or my tears.
There is not a single second when I don't think about him an cry.
Crying and missing is my new hobby.
But nothing changed.

I am still on the same platform and somehow he moved on.
So I really don't think that true live really exist.
I always used to say that I loved him truly and always had belief that if my love I true than he will surely come back.
But nothing changed.
True love doesn't exist.

Yes I still have same feelings for him and he will always remain in my heart forever.
I cam never think about anyone else now.
He is more important than my parents to me.
I will always love him with all my heart.
And I will keep waiting for him till my last breathe.

May be the day he comes back that day my thinking will change.
Before meeting him I never believed on love.
For me love was bullshit but he showed me the meaning of been in love.
He made me realised that true love exist and he only made me realised that it's all bullshit.
There is no word called True Love.


I may or may not find true love in my life ,
But, I will never allow the belief in true love in me to die until I die.

Yes, True love exists!
If you still believe that fantasy proposals, romantic dinner, expensive dates are the only form of love, then I am sorry!
Yeah, they are one of the ways of expressing love , but, they are not the only way of expressing love!
That 53 year old auto driver,who takes care of his wife, a woman who is highly diabetic, who has lost her vision and has kidney failure due to diabetes.
He wakes up, finishes the chores, cooks for his wife, drives auto in the day time to earn, only to return to his home to take care of his ill wife.
He can do everything and can go to any extent , to take care of his wife.
Because, He loves his wife ! And ,Yes , True love exists!
That maid who works in a house, not informing her husband, because she knows , her husband won't allow her to work.
Her husband who works double time as a daily wage labourer by hurting his body and health , only to earn a little more to meet the expenses and to take care of his wife and kids.
He knows, he is not a King ,but he wants to treat his wife like a Queen.
Because , he loves her.

His wife, who couldn't see her husband hurting himself for the sake his family, who wants to help him in every way possible , decides to work as a maid so that she can support him, eventhough he won't accept it and he won't like it.
Because , She loves her husband! And, Yes, True love exists!
That husband who care his wife like a child, who treats his wife like a Queen, who stands by her like a pillar ,when the so called society was so kind enough to label her as ‘infertile’.
He doesn't give a fuck about the society, doesn't give a damn about those people, all he cares about is, his wife and her happiness.
Because, He loves his wife ! And, Yes, True love exists!
If you ever witness such form of love, you will find tears in your eyes, without you yourself knowing!
You will find your heart warm and swell, without you yourself knowing!
You will say to yourself , “ Yes, True love exists!”
Just because it didn't happen to me, it doesn't happen to me, it won't happen to me , definitely doesn't mean that, “True love doesn't exist!”
Again I repeat , I may or may not find true love in my life!
But, I will choose to believe in True love till the end of my life!
P.
S.
That auto driver's wife died before 15 days.
Till 2 weeks before, he struggled a lot in day to day life to take care of his ill wife, but he was a happy and energetic person then.
And now, he is really free and relaxed , but he is very low and depressed and doesn't even talk to anyone.
I really don't know what to do , I can only pray for his healing!


According to me, NO! A big NO!
There are only 3 people in my life I love and I know they love me too!
They are my mother, father and my sister.

But we love each other because we are related with blood.

But when it comes about loving any person who is not your blood relative, I have never found any suitable person.

I find guys running behind a girl because she is beautiful.
So basically they love her beauty, not her.

I find girls running behind guys because they have bucks.
So they love his money, not him.

I find people befriending others because they share benefit among them.
I have never met a person who is a true friend.
The worst experience I have faced in life is: During demonetization, I had no money in my pocket.
So I had to opt PayTm as payment option.
I wanted to board train to go home.
So to go to railway station, I had to book Uber cab and needed money in PayTm wallet for payment.
But my PayTm was not working on JIO sim then.
I really got frustrated and thought my friend might help.
I called one of those whom I regarded as best friend asked to deposit him Rs.
250 in my PayTm wallet and that I would return him later.
He gave me excuses that he tried but could not.
Later I came to know that he was with his GF.
I finally missed my train.
From then, I even lost faith on friendship as well.

Even when I went to my aunt’s home who is looking a girl for her son, I saw some marriage proposals of girls that they got from some matrimonial agent.
They were rejecting girls because: She doe snot look good, she is overweight, she does not earn enough, she is short etc.
Then I when I asked if they are looking if the girl and the boy can be happy with each other, they said that’s the secondary issue.
I was shocked.
Is being happy a secondary issue?
Similarly, if people are looking a guy for their daughter, they look how handsome he looks, his height, income(I am not telling that a guy should be jobless but they expect him to earn 15 lakhs per annum at least) and all.

So basically people never love each other.
They only love their attributes.
So basically if love is verb addressed to a noun, I fell its more addressed to an adjective than noun.
e.
g.
: I love that beautiful girl, not the girl.


Love is a feeling that a person feels in respective to another person.
The another person can be anyone whether your kids, family members or your partner.

This kind of feeling exist between two people when they devote themselves to one another.

If we talk about tangible thing then no love isn't tangible because it is feeling that is felt and is intangible.

Now when it comes on feeling then either they are strong or weak.
Strong feelings that are true leads to true love.

I would like to share my own true love story with you.
You will also get to know about some love tips that works.

I had many relationship in my life and found true love once.
My partner stayed with me in relationship for 3 years and after that we broken up.
Now it's more than 4 yrs after break up but still she is my true love and that's the reason I didn't felt in love again with any other person.

The same happened with Rekha (Bollywood Actress).
She loved Amitabh Bachchan do much that she never married any other person.
She believed that either she will devote her life to Amitabh or no one else.
Well Amitabh didn't married her because he loved his wife Jaya Bachchan.

One must learn love tips by true lover like Rekha.
It's really hard to love anyone to let them go.
Love don't require physical presence of the other person with you.
The best example is discussed above.
It states that true love exists.



Does true love exist?


Strictly NO
Nowadays, there is nothing called true love.
What all today exists is only conditional love.
That love is for a particular reason, a particular trait of a person and a particular greed which needs to be fulfilled by human beings.

That isn’t called love; in fact it’s called “Lust”.

Many of you mistake lust as a crave for sex or a sexual satisfaction but that’s not the truth.
Lust are of many kinds.

Many people love each other because they need sex whereas there are some people who love each other for the lust of their physical traits, some people love each other for the lust of their money and some love each other only to showoff because they think that it makes them look pretty cool in the modern world.
So this proves there is nothing called true love.

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Not convinced? Read ahead.

Boys look for pretty girls to make them their love, baby, jaanu, bachha and all.
Girls look for handsome and rich boys to make them their life partner, babu, sona, meri jaan, meri duniya(my world).

I don’t know how many duniya(worlds) they want to have coz such type of girls have had near about 5–6 such “my world” in the past few months and they can soon create their own solar system by combining their “my worlds”.
So where is the true love?
If true love would have existed, then there wouldn’t have been divorces between husband and wives.

Still not convinced? Read further.

Have you ever asked yourself why you love your parents? Isn’t it because they have done so much for you and still doing it without even demanding from you anything.
What if they start demanding something from you everytime they do something for you?
Most of your so called true love for your parents will instantly vanish.
Many of you will then start arguing with them over the matter.
I know a majority of people will not accept this but it’s the harsh truth.
Then where is the true love guys?
If true love would have existed and everybody would have truly loved their parents, then there wouldn’t have been old age homes.

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So, there is no such thing called true love.
But, there is something called pure love.
Love which is not based on caste, color, looks, wealth or fame or any kind of give and take is pure love.

Pure love is something which can not be defined in words; it is a feeling which almost all of us had gone through at least once in their lifetime but most of us have failed to recognize it.

According to me, dads silently tucking you your blankets while you are asleep and moms quietly bringing you fruits/snacks when they see you’ve been studying for a long time will always be the purest form of love in the entire universe.

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- Adarsh Gupta
A sincere review from you all would encourage me to write even more.

Te Amo ♥



Dear friend,
Lovers know each other.
Lover of God knows God.

Lovers don’t talk about that which is very intimate in public.
They do not like to discuss all the core secrets with others.
They do not like to tell of these things to anybody.
These things have a certain sacredness.
These things must remain untouched.
They cannot be shared with the world.
Oh, they are so sacred that they cannot be shared even with oneself.

They are so sacred that you do not want to tell of them even to your own mind.
If you put something in words and speak it out, then you are speaking out an entire word.
Not making it public.
You don’t let your intimacy become a public thing.
Forget about words, if you even think about something, then you have at least let your mind know about that thing.

Your relationship with God is so intimate that you cannot let others and you cannot let even yourself know about it, which means that not only can you not use words, you can also not use thoughts, which means you cannot think about your relationship with God.
Which means you will know everything, but not ‘think’ about anything, and that is the mark of a Real relationship.
To know so closely that there is no need to think.
You know so closely that thoughts become vulgar.

Remember that thought is always a problem-solving mechanism.
Thought arises only when there is a challenge, a problem, a doubt, a dispute.
If everything is well-settled, then there is no need to think.
In intimate love, everything is surely well-settled.
So, where is the need for thought? You will know all the intimate details about God, but you will say nothing.
Not only will you not say anything to others, you will also not say anything to yourself.
You won’t even think.
Thinking is an insult, an abomination.

In matters of the Real, you just be.
You do not think.
If you have to think about your Beloved, if you miss your Beloved, it is a sure sign of absence of Love.

Where there is something Real, it is always complete.
The Real is complete by definition.
What is complete by definition does not seek completion through after-thought.
If your meeting has been complete, you will not be left groping the memories.

Whatsoever is left unfulfilled, seeks fulfilment through thought.
That which is Total and Complete, just fades away, dissolves.
Hence, the Real Lover will not make himself felt through thought.
He would not want to become an object in your mind.
He will not say, “Remember me at all times in the day”.

The sign of True Love is that you can forget.

You can totally forget.

You are so assured that there is no need to think or remember.

Thought is not needed.
Verbalization is not needed.
You are knowing without thinking – and that is Real knowing, when you know without thinking, when you know without effort, without knowledge, without memories.

~ Acharya Prashant (आचार्य प्रशान्त)
You cannot get It through your effort.

But you will not get It without effort either.

Don’t resist,
empty yourself, and
leave the rest to Grace.

~ Acharya Ji
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Like no other.

I was a teenager- about 14–15 years old and had heard a lot about love.

I was, as you say- was in love with the notion of love.

That was when I first came to hear of their love story…
“I am getting married in a week,” Nikhil said avoiding her eyes.

-“Is there no other option?” Shweta said with barely constrained tears.

“No, I can’t go against my parents' wishes.
I have tried everything to make them understand, but the difference in our caste is the main problem.

-“Nikhil, we can elope.
I am ready.

“My mother will commit suicide if I ever take such a step.

-“Let us then wait for sometime, maybe, they will relent.

“It’s no good arguing Shweta.

-“But…”
“Shweta, it’s over.

“We are getting married in a week,” Nikhil said, his eyes full of love.

-“Was there no other option?” Shweta, though happy, was in a little doubt.

“No, it was the only thing that my parents understood.
Now, under the circumstances, they had to agree.

-“Nikhil, we could have done something else.

“It was the only way.

-“Yes, but if we had taken a different path.

“It’s no good arguing Shweta.

-“But…”
“Shweta, it’s over.

Three years had elapsed between both the conversations.

And those years were a hell for Aastha.

Yes, she was Nikhil’s wife.

Was.

She was as yet, unaware of the reasons her marriage had failed.

In these three years, she had given all to her arranged marriage with Nikhil- a marriage that their parents’ had fixed for them.

She had loved Nikhil- all she could, by her words, her actions, her body, her heart, and soul.

She had been the best wife, anyone could ever want.

But, did Nikhil want her?
No.

She never knew what was his problem.

Why was he so mean to her? Why did he never talked to her, apart from any important things?
Yes, they did have a physical relationship- but it always seemed constrained to her, like he was obliging her, while himself not really interested.

And it got worse.

His behaviour, from indifference, had turned to rude- to the point that he had started hitting her.

Her in-laws supported her, but they could never say more than a few words to their son, who was hostile to them too.

Even her parents had come over to talk to him- to no avail.

Nothing she could do pleased Nikhil.

It seemed that he was forced to marry her.

She was exhausted mentally, having no strength to fight for her right, for her deserved love.

At last, when she couldn’t take it anymore- she left his house and filed for divorce.

And it was as if Nikhil had been waiting for it- he readily agreed.

All the formalities of the mutual divorce were completed.

She felt free but cheated- as if something defiled her like she was punished for no fault of her own.

Aastha, a lively girl of 26, became a hollow shell of her former self.

What was her fault? That she had married according to her parents’ wishes, that she had loved her husband from day one and given all to keep the sanctity of marriage intact?
Almost after 6 months of her divorce, she heard the news of Nikhil re-marrying.

And that was when she knew.

She had paid the price of parents’ dominance, the price of love- but of her husbands’.

Nikhil married Aastha as per his parents’ wishes, bowing down to their blackmail.

Enraged to be coerced into marriage, Nikhil thought of something to payback.

He wanted to teach his parents’ a lesson, forgetting that he was playing with an innocent girl’s life.

As he couldn’t say a word to his parents’, he took a different track and started torturing Aastha.

He knew, one day or the other, she will retaliate and then he could easily escalate the matter to the point of divorce.

And once he got divorced, he would be damaged goods’ in the eyes of the society- with no single girl willing to marry him, and then his parents would have no problem in him marrying a single girl from another caste.

Yes, that was his grand plan.

He was ready to go any lengths to get the love of his life.

And Shweta was in it too.
She had agreed not to get married to anyone else in the meantime.

They succeeded in their plan.

Their love had prevailed.

They won.

It was all in the name of love.

True love…
-Khushbu.


Yess Yess and Yesss.

Let me tell you an incident that occurred recently.

It was Sunday and my brother woke up at 6 am.
(it is impossible to wake him up at 6 am during school days).

He was all active and ready to disturb everyone in the house.
So the first thing he did was, he went to my mom and started waking her up.

Though my mom was awake, she pretend to not wake up.
After repeated attempts of waking her up, he became a little tensed.

Now my mom was trying to prank him.
She didn't move a bit.
She even stopped breathing for a while to fool him.

My brother was now scared.
He observed her very carefully.
He slowly opened eyes, hit her on the face, poured a little water on her, but she did not wake up.

My brother started crying loudly, went to my father and told him that mom is not waking up.
He then pulled my mom's hair very hard.

Mom realised that it was going out of hand and woke up.
Seeing my mom awake, my brother took a breath of relief, hugged her hard and kissed a ton of times.
He also promised her that he will never trouble her.
He sat next to her for an hour and didn't leave her for a second.

Though what mom did was not good, but this proved my brother's love for her.
This proved that though he doesn't leave a single opportunity to trouble her, he cannot imagine a single second without her.
This innocent and pure love of a son for his mother is the greatest example of existence of
True Love.

The Maa-Beta Picture:


True love exists.
True love is unconditional.
Someone who feels true love for another will continue to love them regardless of what they do.

People are, of course, imperfect, so they make mistakes, and hurt others' feelings.
Some people feel betrayed.
However, in the case of true love, a person who feels sadness, anger, or betrayal will try to work through the circumstance with the other person.

One person can show true love while the other does not.
True love does not have to be reciprocal.
Mother Theresa showed true love for those she served throughout her life.
They did not always show it back.

If you're religious, the standard of true love is the example of the love God gives to us.
This unconditional love is called "charity" in the scriptures.
Only in later years has the word come to mean free food for the indigent.
The challenge that I and many struggle with is how to adapt this example of scriptural love to the love we show in our every day relationships.

One of the best resources I've read about finding and giving unconditional love comes from Greg Baer in his book Real Love: The Truth About Finding Unconditional Love & Fulfilling Relationships.
One of the most impactful ideas from his book for me was this– As long as we are giving or trying to get conditional or imitation love, we can't see real love, even when others show it to us.
This is because we're "purchasing" what we want from others, in that we think we're only getting what we want because we manipulated them into it.
So even if someone else truly loves us and serves us, we are blind to it.

It's amazing to me how we often we think we're giving love to others in our relationships, but in fact, we are only giving conditional or imitation love.
In other words, "I'll love you if you do this for me or act this way for me", rather than "I'll love you and care for you regardless of what you do.
"
I think grandparents have the easiest time understanding this.
I could never turn away from my grandson, regardless of what he does.
He may make a choice that makes me sad, but I'll never stop loving him.
Also, the love that most mothers have for their children is unconditional.

"Enjoying the park" by C.
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Enjoying the park
Another excellent example I've found of showing unconditional love comes from Arbinger Institute.
In their book, The Anatomy of Peace, you learn how it's possible to see someone as a human, not an object, even if they have hurt you or have treated you poorly.

A core idea from the Anatomy of Peace is that we deceive ourselves to justify our actions that defy our beliefs of what we should do.
For example, you get into an elevator.
Do you hold the door for someone you see rushing across the room, or because you're in a hurry do you allow the door to close? If you allow it to close, why? Are you telling yourself that it's the man's fault he didn't get here earlier? This is just an excuse we tell ourselves to justify our unkind action of not holding the elevator door open for him.

I believe nearly all of us lie to ourselves to justify actions incongruent with our beliefs, and when we do so we become blind to the reality of the circumstance.
Usually, we are the cause of conflict, but we don't want to believe it.
This habit ultimately causes us to be blind to those who may truly love us.
We create all kinds of stories that cast us as the victimized or the deserving one, and the other as the one at fault.

Showing unconditional love is not easy.
It takes a lot of work.
But you can learn to love unconditionally.
Once you achieve this, you will understand true love and you will be able to recognize it in your life.
You will be able to find people who will love you this way, and you will be able to teach others how to show true love by showing it to them.

Understanding and having true love in your life is the most valuable thing in the world.

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I Wrotte a similar answer:
Yes it can, because Love is Not a feeling.
Why? because feelings are polar, they polarize into good and bad feelings and feelings change all time according to extern situations.
Feelings are dependent on the enviroment, on our entourage, on the extern.
Hence we are totally affectable, susceptible, manipulable by extern situations.
Extern situations determine that I start feeling bad when I don’t understand or accept something or that I feel happy or cheerful when something is according to my beliefs.

What you feel when you are in love are feelings.
That is not Love, those are feelings.
When you are infatuated the body releases a hormone named phenylethylamine.
That hormone is responsible for all the excitment and the rush you feel.
The function of this hormone is to recognize a genetic compatibility in the person you fall in love.
This hormone blocks personality, that is the reason why when you fall in love you see the other person as perfect.
it can be your opposite, but you see him or her perfect.
The thing with this hormone is that it only last as much as 3 years.
That is why many couples say after this time that “love is over”.
Love cannot be over.
What happened is that feelings changed.
When the person you “love” stops behaving the way you want then you stop “loving” them.
All is good as long as the person you “love” behaves the way you want.
And not just with your couple, with your children, situations and the world.
Why? Because feelings are part of your system of beliefs.
Of your Ego.

Love is something very different.
Love is not a feeling because love doesn’t changes, and Love doesn’t stops because love is not a feeling, If you could feel love then it wouldn’t be love.
Remember what Jesus said? Love your enemies? You cannot do that from feelings.

Love is deep and a very deep understanding.
Love is the ability you have to understand, comprehend, respect and accept the world, situations and people without wanting to change them.
To be able to do this, you have to remove your beliefs about how people or the world should be and to do so, you have to make an inner work of changing yourself.
Love is what lets you understand that there is no good and bad, that the world is perfect, that people do the best they can from their systems of beliefs.
Love is a neutral point.
Love is what sets you free from all suffering! Feelings are unable of doing this.


GOD BLESS & may all your dreams come true :)


No :)
I was in a relationship of 3 years.
We were in a long distance relationship.
We met on Twitter.
Seems filmy? Yeah actually our relationship was fully filmy 😛
Like every couple we were madly in love with each other in starting.
But as our relationship passed we started fighting over silly topics.
I agree mistake was mine.
I never understood him but same goes to him.
Our main problem was understanding.
We had lots of misunderstanding.

We had lots of fights and breakup but in the end we always ended up being together as we loved each other madly.
I agree in my relationship misunderstanding played an important role.
But yes 70%mistakes was mine but I won't deny the fact that 30% mistakes was his too.
But again we always ended up been together.

I never realised that those fights were doing something which I never understood and he was thinking about all those incidents.
I forgot all the things and fights we had in our past bt he didn't all those bad memories were doing its work in his mind internally.

No doubt he loved me like hell.
No one can even thought about giving the same love what he gave to me.
He was always there in my bad times.
He always supported me whenever everyone was against me.
He was a real gem.

Like other couples we also made couple of promises to been together forever no matter what.
Will never leave each other and what not.
But we forgot that promises are meant to be broken.
So everything was working fine till 5th March.
On 6th February on my bday he gave me lots of surprises it was my best birthday.
That day was the best day of my life.
But life took a U turn and suddenly on 6th March he came to meet me as I was at his place for some days.
On 5tg March everything was alright we were together and had our best day bit suddenly next day he came and he broke up with me for my nature and attitude.

From that day till today there is not a single day when I didn't begged him for coming back in my life as he is my life my oxygen my world.
But nothing changed.

A person who always scolded me to have my food, who can't see tears in my eyes who can do anything for me who fought with the world for me.
Today he didn't cared whether I am having my food or not.
He don't care about my health, my sleep or my tears.
There is not a single second when I don't think about him an cry.
Crying and missing is my new hobby.
But nothing changed.

I am still on the same platform and somehow he moved on.
So I really don't think that true live really exist.
I always used to say that I loved him truly and always had belief that if my love I true than he will surely come back.
But nothing changed.
True love doesn't exist.

Yes I still have same feelings for him and he will always remain in my heart forever.
I cam never think about anyone else now.
He is more important than my parents to me.
I will always love him with all my heart.
And I will keep waiting for him till my last breathe.

May be the day he comes back that day my thinking will change.
Before meeting him I never believed on love.
For me love was bullshit but he showed me the meaning of been in love.
He made me realised that true love exist and he only made me realised that it's all bullshit.
There is no word called True Love.


I may or may not find true love in my life ,
But, I will never allow the belief in true love in me to die until I die.

Yes, True love exists!
If you still believe that fantasy proposals, romantic dinner, expensive dates are the only form of love, then I am sorry!
Yeah, they are one of the ways of expressing love , but, they are not the only way of expressing love!
That 53 year old auto driver,who takes care of his wife, a woman who is highly diabetic, who has lost her vision and has kidney failure due to diabetes.
He wakes up, finishes the chores, cooks for his wife, drives auto in the day time to earn, only to return to his home to take care of his ill wife.
He can do everything and can go to any extent , to take care of his wife.
Because, He loves his wife ! And ,Yes , True love exists!
That maid who works in a house, not informing her husband, because she knows , her husband won't allow her to work.
Her husband who works double time as a daily wage labourer by hurting his body and health , only to earn a little more to meet the expenses and to take care of his wife and kids.
He knows, he is not a King ,but he wants to treat his wife like a Queen.
Because , he loves her.

His wife, who couldn't see her husband hurting himself for the sake his family, who wants to help him in every way possible , decides to work as a maid so that she can support him, eventhough he won't accept it and he won't like it.
Because , She loves her husband! And, Yes, True love exists!
That husband who care his wife like a child, who treats his wife like a Queen, who stands by her like a pillar ,when the so called society was so kind enough to label her as ‘infertile’.
He doesn't give a fuck about the society, doesn't give a damn about those people, all he cares about is, his wife and her happiness.
Because, He loves his wife ! And, Yes, True love exists!
If you ever witness such form of love, you will find tears in your eyes, without you yourself knowing!
You will find your heart warm and swell, without you yourself knowing!
You will say to yourself , “ Yes, True love exists!”
Just because it didn't happen to me, it doesn't happen to me, it won't happen to me , definitely doesn't mean that, “True love doesn't exist!”
Again I repeat , I may or may not find true love in my life!
But, I will choose to believe in True love till the end of my life!
P.
S.
That auto driver's wife died before 15 days.
Till 2 weeks before, he struggled a lot in day to day life to take care of his ill wife, but he was a happy and energetic person then.
And now, he is really free and relaxed , but he is very low and depressed and doesn't even talk to anyone.
I really don't know what to do , I can only pray for his healing!


According to me, NO! A big NO!
There are only 3 people in my life I love and I know they love me too!
They are my mother, father and my sister.

But we love each other because we are related with blood.

But when it comes about loving any person who is not your blood relative, I have never found any suitable person.

I find guys running behind a girl because she is beautiful.
So basically they love her beauty, not her.

I find girls running behind guys because they have bucks.
So they love his money, not him.

I find people befriending others because they share benefit among them.
I have never met a person who is a true friend.
The worst experience I have faced in life is: During demonetization, I had no money in my pocket.
So I had to opt PayTm as payment option.
I wanted to board train to go home.
So to go to railway station, I had to book Uber cab and needed money in PayTm wallet for payment.
But my PayTm was not working on JIO sim then.
I really got frustrated and thought my friend might help.
I called one of those whom I regarded as best friend asked to deposit him Rs.
250 in my PayTm wallet and that I would return him later.
He gave me excuses that he tried but could not.
Later I came to know that he was with his GF.
I finally missed my train.
From then, I even lost faith on friendship as well.

Even when I went to my aunt’s home who is looking a girl for her son, I saw some marriage proposals of girls that they got from some matrimonial agent.
They were rejecting girls because: She doe snot look good, she is overweight, she does not earn enough, she is short etc.
Then I when I asked if they are looking if the girl and the boy can be happy with each other, they said that’s the secondary issue.
I was shocked.
Is being happy a secondary issue?
Similarly, if people are looking a guy for their daughter, they look how handsome he looks, his height, income(I am not telling that a guy should be jobless but they expect him to earn 15 lakhs per annum at least) and all.

So basically people never love each other.
They only love their attributes.
So basically if love is verb addressed to a noun, I fell its more addressed to an adjective than noun.
e.
g.
: I love that beautiful girl, not the girl.


Does true love exist?


Strictly NO
Nowadays, there is nothing called true love.
What all today exists is only conditional love.
That love is for a particular reason, a particular trait of a person and a particular greed which needs to be fulfilled by human beings.

That isn’t called love; in fact it’s called “Lust”.

Many of you mistake lust as a crave for sex or a sexual satisfaction but that’s not the truth.
Lust are of many kinds.

Many people love each other because they need sex whereas there are some people who love each other for the lust of their physical traits, some people love each other for the lust of their money and some love each other only to showoff because they think that it makes them look pretty cool in the modern world.
So this proves there is nothing called true love.

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Not convinced? Read ahead.

Boys look for pretty girls to make them their love, baby, jaanu, bachha and all.
Girls look for handsome and rich boys to make them their life partner, babu, sona, meri jaan, meri duniya(my world).

I don’t know how many duniya(worlds) they want to have coz such type of girls have had near about 5–6 such “my world” in the past few months and they can soon create their own solar system by combining their “my worlds”.
So where is the true love?
If true love would have existed, then there wouldn’t have been divorces between husband and wives.

Still not convinced? Read further.

Have you ever asked yourself why you love your parents? Isn’t it because they have done so much for you and still doing it without even demanding from you anything.
What if they start demanding something from you everytime they do something for you?
Most of your so called true love for your parents will instantly vanish.
Many of you will then start arguing with them over the matter.
I know a majority of people will not accept this but it’s the harsh truth.
Then where is the true love guys?
If true love would have existed and everybody would have truly loved their parents, then there wouldn’t have been old age homes.

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So, there is no such thing called true love.
But, there is something called pure love.
Love which is not based on caste, color, looks, wealth or fame or any kind of give and take is pure love.

Pure love is something which can not be defined in words; it is a feeling which almost all of us had gone through at least once in their lifetime but most of us have failed to recognize it.

According to me, dads silently tucking you your blankets while you are asleep and moms quietly bringing you fruits/snacks when they see you’ve been studying for a long time will always be the purest form of love in the entire universe.

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Dear friend,
Lovers know each other.
Lover of God knows God.

Lovers don’t talk about that which is very intimate in public.
They do not like to discuss all the core secrets with others.
They do not like to tell of these things to anybody.
These things have a certain sacredness.
These things must remain untouched.
They cannot be shared with the world.
Oh, they are so sacred that they cannot be shared even with oneself.

They are so sacred that you do not want to tell of them even to your own mind.
If you put something in words and speak it out, then you are speaking out an entire word.
Not making it public.
You don’t let your intimacy become a public thing.
Forget about words, if you even think about something, then you have at least let your mind know about that thing.

Your relationship with God is so intimate that you cannot let others and you cannot let even yourself know about it, which means that not only can you not use words, you can also not use thoughts, which means you cannot think about your relationship with God.
Which means you will know everything, but not ‘think’ about anything, and that is the mark of a Real relationship.
To know so closely that there is no need to think.
You know so closely that thoughts become vulgar.

Remember that thought is always a problem-solving mechanism.
Thought arises only when there is a challenge, a problem, a doubt, a dispute.
If everything is well-settled, then there is no need to think.
In intimate love, everything is surely well-settled.
So, where is the need for thought? You will know all the intimate details about God, but you will say nothing.
Not only will you not say anything to others, you will also not say anything to yourself.
You won’t even think.
Thinking is an insult, an abomination.

In matters of the Real, you just be.
You do not think.
If you have to think about your Beloved, if you miss your Beloved, it is a sure sign of absence of Love.

Where there is something Real, it is always complete.
The Real is complete by definition.
What is complete by definition does not seek completion through after-thought.
If your meeting has been complete, you will not be left groping the memories.

Whatsoever is left unfulfilled, seeks fulfilment through thought.
That which is Total and Complete, just fades away, dissolves.
Hence, the Real Lover will not make himself felt through thought.
He would not want to become an object in your mind.
He will not say, “Remember me at all times in the day”.

The sign of True Love is that you can forget.

You can totally forget.

You are so assured that there is no need to think or remember.

Thought is not needed.
Verbalization is not needed.
You are knowing without thinking – and that is Real knowing, when you know without thinking, when you know without effort, without knowledge, without memories.

~ Acharya Prashant (आचार्य प्रशान्त)
You cannot get It through your effort.

But you will not get It without effort either.

Don’t resist,
empty yourself, and
leave the rest to Grace.

~ Acharya Ji
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The Pink city, Jaipur
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Be Really Blessed❄


Like no other.

I was a teenager- about 14–15 years old and had heard a lot about love.

I was, as you say- was in love with the notion of love.

That was when I first came to hear of their love story…
“I am getting married in a week,” Nikhil said avoiding her eyes.

-“Is there no other option?” Shweta said with barely constrained tears.

“No, I can’t go against my parents' wishes.
I have tried everything to make them understand, but the difference in our caste is the main problem.

-“Nikhil, we can elope.
I am ready.

“My mother will commit suicide if I ever take such a step.

-“Let us then wait for sometime, maybe, they will relent.

“It’s no good arguing Shweta.

-“But…”
“Shweta, it’s over.

“We are getting married in a week,” Nikhil said, his eyes full of love.

-“Was there no other option?” Shweta, though happy, was in a little doubt.

“No, it was the only thing that my parents understood.
Now, under the circumstances, they had to agree.

-“Nikhil, we could have done something else.

“It was the only way.

-“Yes, but if we had taken a different path.

“It’s no good arguing Shweta.

-“But…”
“Shweta, it’s over.

Three years had elapsed between both the conversations.

And those years were a hell for Aastha.

Yes, she was Nikhil’s wife.

Was.

She was as yet, unaware of the reasons her marriage had failed.

In these three years, she had given all to her arranged marriage with Nikhil- a marriage that their parents’ had fixed for them.

She had loved Nikhil- all she could, by her words, her actions, her body, her heart, and soul.

She had been the best wife, anyone could ever want.

But, did Nikhil want her?
No.

She never knew what was his problem.

Why was he so mean to her? Why did he never talked to her, apart from any important things?
Yes, they did have a physical relationship- but it always seemed constrained to her, like he was obliging her, while himself not really interested.

And it got worse.

His behaviour, from indifference, had turned to rude- to the point that he had started hitting her.

Her in-laws supported her, but they could never say more than a few words to their son, who was hostile to them too.

Even her parents had come over to talk to him- to no avail.

Nothing she could do pleased Nikhil.

It seemed that he was forced to marry her.

She was exhausted mentally, having no strength to fight for her right, for her deserved love.

At last, when she couldn’t take it anymore- she left his house and filed for divorce.

And it was as if Nikhil had been waiting for it- he readily agreed.

All the formalities of the mutual divorce were completed.

She felt free but cheated- as if something defiled her like she was punished for no fault of her own.

Aastha, a lively girl of 26, became a hollow shell of her former self.

What was her fault? That she had married according to her parents’ wishes, that she had loved her husband from day one and given all to keep the sanctity of marriage intact?
Almost after 6 months of her divorce, she heard the news of Nikhil re-marrying.

And that was when she knew.

She had paid the price of parents’ dominance, the price of love- but of her husbands’.

Nikhil married Aastha as per his parents’ wishes, bowing down to their blackmail.

Enraged to be coerced into marriage, Nikhil thought of something to payback.

He wanted to teach his parents’ a lesson, forgetting that he was playing with an innocent girl’s life.

As he couldn’t say a word to his parents’, he took a different track and started torturing Aastha.

He knew, one day or the other, she will retaliate and then he could easily escalate the matter to the point of divorce.

And once he got divorced, he would be damaged goods’ in the eyes of the society- with no single girl willing to marry him, and then his parents would have no problem in him marrying a single girl from another caste.

Yes, that was his grand plan.

He was ready to go any lengths to get the love of his life.

And Shweta was in it too.
She had agreed not to get married to anyone else in the meantime.

They succeeded in their plan.

Their love had prevailed.

They won.

It was all in the name of love.

True love…
-Khushbu.


Yess Yess and Yesss.

Let me tell you an incident that occurred recently.

It was Sunday and my brother woke up at 6 am.
(it is impossible to wake him up at 6 am during school days).

He was all active and ready to disturb everyone in the house.
So the first thing he did was, he went to my mom and started waking her up.

Though my mom was awake, she pretend to not wake up.
After repeated attempts of waking her up, he became a little tensed.

Now my mom was trying to prank him.
She didn't move a bit.
She even stopped breathing for a while to fool him.

My brother was now scared.
He observed her very carefully.
He slowly opened eyes, hit her on the face, poured a little water on her, but she did not wake up.

My brother started crying loudly, went to my father and told him that mom is not waking up.
He then pulled my mom's hair very hard.

Mom realised that it was going out of hand and woke up.
Seeing my mom awake, my brother took a breath of relief, hugged her hard and kissed a ton of times.
He also promised her that he will never trouble her.
He sat next to her for an hour and didn't leave her for a second.

Though what mom did was not good, but this proved my brother's love for her.
This proved that though he doesn't leave a single opportunity to trouble her, he cannot imagine a single second without her.
This innocent and pure love of a son for his mother is the greatest example of existence of
True Love.

The Maa-Beta Picture:


True love exists.
True love is unconditional.
Someone who feels true love for another will continue to love them regardless of what they do.

People are, of course, imperfect, so they make mistakes, and hurt others' feelings.
Some people feel betrayed.
However, in the case of true love, a person who feels sadness, anger, or betrayal will try to work through the circumstance with the other person.

One person can show true love while the other does not.
True love does not have to be reciprocal.
Mother Theresa showed true love for those she served throughout her life.
They did not always show it back.

If you're religious, the standard of true love is the example of the love God gives to us.
This unconditional love is called "charity" in the scriptures.
Only in later years has the word come to mean free food for the indigent.
The challenge that I and many struggle with is how to adapt this example of scriptural love to the love we show in our every day relationships.

One of the best resources I've read about finding and giving unconditional love comes from Greg Baer in his book Real Love: The Truth About Finding Unconditional Love & Fulfilling Relationships.
One of the most impactful ideas from his book for me was this– As long as we are giving or trying to get conditional or imitation love, we can't see real love, even when others show it to us.
This is because we're "purchasing" what we want from others, in that we think we're only getting what we want because we manipulated them into it.
So even if someone else truly loves us and serves us, we are blind to it.

It's amazing to me how we often we think we're giving love to others in our relationships, but in fact, we are only giving conditional or imitation love.
In other words, "I'll love you if you do this for me or act this way for me", rather than "I'll love you and care for you regardless of what you do.
"
I think grandparents have the easiest time understanding this.
I could never turn away from my grandson, regardless of what he does.
He may make a choice that makes me sad, but I'll never stop loving him.
Also, the love that most mothers have for their children is unconditional.

"Enjoying the park" by C.
Carlstead – Flickr.
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Enjoying the park
Another excellent example I've found of showing unconditional love comes from Arbinger Institute.
In their book, The Anatomy of Peace, you learn how it's possible to see someone as a human, not an object, even if they have hurt you or have treated you poorly.

A core idea from the Anatomy of Peace is that we deceive ourselves to justify our actions that defy our beliefs of what we should do.
For example, you get into an elevator.
Do you hold the door for someone you see rushing across the room, or because you're in a hurry do you allow the door to close? If you allow it to close, why? Are you telling yourself that it's the man's fault he didn't get here earlier? This is just an excuse we tell ourselves to justify our unkind action of not holding the elevator door open for him.

I believe nearly all of us lie to ourselves to justify actions incongruent with our beliefs, and when we do so we become blind to the reality of the circumstance.
Usually, we are the cause of conflict, but we don't want to believe it.
This habit ultimately causes us to be blind to those who may truly love us.
We create all kinds of stories that cast us as the victimized or the deserving one, and the other as the one at fault.

Showing unconditional love is not easy.
It takes a lot of work.
But you can learn to love unconditionally.
Once you achieve this, you will understand true love and you will be able to recognize it in your life.
You will be able to find people who will love you this way, and you will be able to teach others how to show true love by showing it to them.

Understanding and having true love in your life is the most valuable thing in the world.

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I Wrotte a similar answer:
Yes it can, because Love is Not a feeling.
Why? because feelings are polar, they polarize into good and bad feelings and feelings change all time according to extern situations.
Feelings are dependent on the enviroment, on our entourage, on the extern.
Hence we are totally affectable, susceptible, manipulable by extern situations.
Extern situations determine that I start feeling bad when I don’t understand or accept something or that I feel happy or cheerful when something is according to my beliefs.

What you feel when you are in love are feelings.
That is not Love, those are feelings.
When you are infatuated the body releases a hormone named phenylethylamine.
That hormone is responsible for all the excitment and the rush you feel.
The function of this hormone is to recognize a genetic compatibility in the person you fall in love.
This hormone blocks personality, that is the reason why when you fall in love you see the other person as perfect.
it can be your opposite, but you see him or her perfect.
The thing with this hormone is that it only last as much as 3 years.
That is why many couples say after this time that “love is over”.
Love cannot be over.
What happened is that feelings changed.
When the person you “love” stops behaving the way you want then you stop “loving” them.
All is good as long as the person you “love” behaves the way you want.
And not just with your couple, with your children, situations and the world.
Why? Because feelings are part of your system of beliefs.
Of your Ego.

Love is something very different.
Love is not a feeling because love doesn’t changes, and Love doesn’t stops because love is not a feeling, If you could feel love then it wouldn’t be love.
Remember what Jesus said? Love your enemies? You cannot do that from feelings.

Love is deep and a very deep understanding.
Love is the ability you have to understand, comprehend, respect and accept the world, situations and people without wanting to change them.
To be able to do this, you have to remove your beliefs about how people or the world should be and to do so, you have to make an inner work of changing yourself.
Love is what lets you understand that there is no good and bad, that the world is perfect, that people do the best they can from their systems of beliefs.
Love is a neutral point.
Love is what sets you free from all suffering! Feelings are unable of doing this.


GOD BLESS & may all your dreams come true :)


No :)
I was in a relationship of 3 years.
We were in a long distance relationship.
We met on Twitter.
Seems filmy? Yeah actually our relationship was fully filmy 😛
Like every couple we were madly in love with each other in starting.
But as our relationship passed we started fighting over silly topics.
I agree mistake was mine.
I never understood him but same goes to him.
Our main problem was understanding.
We had lots of misunderstanding.

We had lots of fights and breakup but in the end we always ended up being together as we loved each other madly.
I agree in my relationship misunderstanding played an important role.
But yes 70%mistakes was mine but I won't deny the fact that 30% mistakes was his too.
But again we always ended up been together.

I never realised that those fights were doing something which I never understood and he was thinking about all those incidents.
I forgot all the things and fights we had in our past bt he didn't all those bad memories were doing its work in his mind internally.

No doubt he loved me like hell.
No one can even thought about giving the same love what he gave to me.
He was always there in my bad times.
He always supported me whenever everyone was against me.
He was a real gem.

Like other couples we also made couple of promises to been together forever no matter what.
Will never leave each other and what not.
But we forgot that promises are meant to be broken.
So everything was working fine till 5th March.
On 6th February on my bday he gave me lots of surprises it was my best birthday.
That day was the best day of my life.
But life took a U turn and suddenly on 6th March he came to meet me as I was at his place for some days.
On 5tg March everything was alright we were together and had our best day bit suddenly next day he came and he broke up with me for my nature and attitude.

From that day till today there is not a single day when I didn't begged him for coming back in my life as he is my life my oxygen my world.
But nothing changed.

A person who always scolded me to have my food, who can't see tears in my eyes who can do anything for me who fought with the world for me.
Today he didn't cared whether I am having my food or not.
He don't care about my health, my sleep or my tears.
There is not a single second when I don't think about him an cry.
Crying and missing is my new hobby.
But nothing changed.

I am still on the same platform and somehow he moved on.
So I really don't think that true live really exist.
I always used to say that I loved him truly and always had belief that if my love I true than he will surely come back.
But nothing changed.
True love doesn't exist.

Yes I still have same feelings for him and he will always remain in my heart forever.
I cam never think about anyone else now.
He is more important than my parents to me.
I will always love him with all my heart.
And I will keep waiting for him till my last breathe.

May be the day he comes back that day my thinking will change.
Before meeting him I never believed on love.
For me love was bullshit but he showed me the meaning of been in love.
He made me realised that true love exist and he only made me realised that it's all bullshit.
There is no word called True Love.


I may or may not find true love in my life ,
But, I will never allow the belief in true love in me to die until I die.

Yes, True love exists!
If you still believe that fantasy proposals, romantic dinner, expensive dates are the only form of love, then I am sorry!
Yeah, they are one of the ways of expressing love , but, they are not the only way of expressing love!
That 53 year old auto driver,who takes care of his wife, a woman who is highly diabetic, who has lost her vision and has kidney failure due to diabetes.
He wakes up, finishes the chores, cooks for his wife, drives auto in the day time to earn, only to return to his home to take care of his ill wife.
He can do everything and can go to any extent , to take care of his wife.
Because, He loves his wife ! And ,Yes , True love exists!
That maid who works in a house, not informing her husband, because she knows , her husband won't allow her to work.
Her husband who works double time as a daily wage labourer by hurting his body and health , only to earn a little more to meet the expenses and to take care of his wife and kids.
He knows, he is not a King ,but he wants to treat his wife like a Queen.
Because , he loves her.

His wife, who couldn't see her husband hurting himself for the sake his family, who wants to help him in every way possible , decides to work as a maid so that she can support him, eventhough he won't accept it and he won't like it.
Because , She loves her husband! And, Yes, True love exists!
That husband who care his wife like a child, who treats his wife like a Queen, who stands by her like a pillar ,when the so called society was so kind enough to label her as ‘infertile’.
He doesn't give a fuck about the society, doesn't give a damn about those people, all he cares about is, his wife and her happiness.
Because, He loves his wife ! And, Yes, True love exists!
If you ever witness such form of love, you will find tears in your eyes, without you yourself knowing!
You will find your heart warm and swell, without you yourself knowing!
You will say to yourself , “ Yes, True love exists!”
Just because it didn't happen to me, it doesn't happen to me, it won't happen to me , definitely doesn't mean that, “True love doesn't exist!”
Again I repeat , I may or may not find true love in my life!
But, I will choose to believe in True love till the end of my life!
P.
S.
That auto driver's wife died before 15 days.
Till 2 weeks before, he struggled a lot in day to day life to take care of his ill wife, but he was a happy and energetic person then.
And now, he is really free and relaxed , but he is very low and depressed and doesn't even talk to anyone.
I really don't know what to do , I can only pray for his healing!


According to me, NO! A big NO!
There are only 3 people in my life I love and I know they love me too!
They are my mother, father and my sister.

But we love each other because we are related with blood.

But when it comes about loving any person who is not your blood relative, I have never found any suitable person.

I find guys running behind a girl because she is beautiful.
So basically they love her beauty, not her.

I find girls running behind guys because they have bucks.
So they love his money, not him.

I find people befriending others because they share benefit among them.
I have never met a person who is a true friend.
The worst experience I have faced in life is: During demonetization, I had no money in my pocket.
So I had to opt PayTm as payment option.
I wanted to board train to go home.
So to go to railway station, I had to book Uber cab and needed money in PayTm wallet for payment.
But my PayTm was not working on JIO sim then.
I really got frustrated and thought my friend might help.
I called one of those whom I regarded as best friend asked to deposit him Rs.
250 in my PayTm wallet and that I would return him later.
He gave me excuses that he tried but could not.
Later I came to know that he was with his GF.
I finally missed my train.
From then, I even lost faith on friendship as well.

Even when I went to my aunt’s home who is looking a girl for her son, I saw some marriage proposals of girls that they got from some matrimonial agent.
They were rejecting girls because: She doe snot look good, she is overweight, she does not earn enough, she is short etc.
Then I when I asked if they are looking if the girl and the boy can be happy with each other, they said that’s the secondary issue.
I was shocked.
Is being happy a secondary issue?
Similarly, if people are looking a guy for their daughter, they look how handsome he looks, his height, income(I am not telling that a guy should be jobless but they expect him to earn 15 lakhs per annum at least) and all.

So basically people never love each other.
They only love their attributes.
So basically if love is verb addressed to a noun, I fell its more addressed to an adjective than noun.
e.
g.
: I love that beautiful girl, not the girl.

Updated: 18.06.2019 — 3:40 pm

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